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Dezert4Runner

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Father in law passed away last night shortly after we visited him in the ICU. Complications from diabetes and being on dialysis, coupled with a bout of carbon monoxide in the system due to oxygen issues. Also dealing with low blood pressure and congestive heart failure as well. Visting someone on their deathbed who is mentally there but body is breaking down and intubated and can’t talk is a shitty way to say goodbye.

I don’t know how ICU healthcare workers deal with that day in and day out. Much respect to people in that line of work.
 

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Father in law passed away last night shortly after we visited him in the ICU. Complications from diabetes and being on dialysis, coupled with a bout of carbon monoxide in the system due to oxygen issues. Also dealing with low blood pressure and congestive heart failure as well. Visting someone on their deathbed who is mentally there but body is breaking down and intubated and can’t talk is a shitty way to say goodbye.

I don’t know how ICU healthcare workers deal with that day in and day out. Much respect to people in that line of work.
So sorry, sir. Fair winds and following seas to the young man.
 
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Father in law passed away last night shortly after we visited him in the ICU. Complications from diabetes and being on dialysis, coupled with a bout of carbon monoxide in the system due to oxygen issues. Also dealing with low blood pressure and congestive heart failure as well. Visting someone on their deathbed who is mentally there but body is breaking down and intubated and can’t talk is a shitty way to say goodbye.

I don’t know how ICU healthcare workers deal with that day in and day out. Much respect to people in that line of work.
Man that sucks. Sorry to hear this.
 

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Father in law passed away last night shortly after we visited him in the ICU. Complications from diabetes and being on dialysis, coupled with a bout of carbon monoxide in the system due to oxygen issues. Also dealing with low blood pressure and congestive heart failure as well. Visting someone on their deathbed who is mentally there but body is breaking down and intubated and can’t talk is a shitty way to say goodbye.

I don’t know how ICU healthcare workers deal with that day in and day out. Much respect to people in that line of work.

Sorry to hear, condolences.
 

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Father in law passed away last night shortly after we visited him in the ICU. Complications from diabetes and being on dialysis, coupled with a bout of carbon monoxide in the system due to oxygen issues. Also dealing with low blood pressure and congestive heart failure as well. Visting someone on their deathbed who is mentally there but body is breaking down and intubated and can’t talk is a shitty way to say goodbye.

I don’t know how ICU healthcare workers deal with that day in and day out. Much respect to people in that line of work.
That sucks. Sorry to hear.

At the very least you did get to say goodbye at the bedside, the COVID19 positive cases can’t have visitors, the closest you’re allowed is looking through the glass from outside the room (if the whole floor isn’t locked down). For a while people had to say their goodbyes through zoom and an iPad that gets placed inside the room overlooking the patient.

losing someone sucks all the way around. Take some solace that he’s not suffering anymore and with the drugs he was likely getting he felt as comfortable as he could given the circumstances
 

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That sucks. Sorry to hear.

At the very least you did get to say goodbye at the bedside, the COVID19 positive cases can’t have visitors, the closest you’re allowed is looking through the glass from outside the room (if the whole floor isn’t locked down). For a while people had to say their goodbyes through zoom and an iPad that gets placed inside the room overlooking the patient.

losing someone sucks all the way around. Take some solace that he’s not suffering anymore and with the drugs he was likely getting he felt as comfortable as he could given the circumstances
For sure. Once he and my MIL made the decision to switch to comfort care and start the process of “pulling the plug”, they gave him morphine and he was at least comfortable throughout the rest of that process. Covid is a dirty bitch when it comes to visitation. Thankfully, he didn’t have it so we were able to visit one at a time. The family had a couple months of him in the hospital and nobody able to see him (even his wife) due to Covid restrictions. It just made a bad situation that much worse.
 

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For sure. Once he and my MIL made the decision to switch to comfort care and start the process of “pulling the plug”, they gave him morphine and he was at least comfortable throughout the rest of that process. Covid is a dirty bitch when it comes to visitation. Thankfully, he didn’t have it so we were able to visit one at a time. The family had a couple months of him in the hospital and nobody able to see him (even his wife) due to Covid restrictions. It just made a bad situation that much worse.
From the healthcare side tell your MIL we appreciate it when families communicate with each other and make the decision/take control of the direction of care. It’s a lot less traumatic than having the decision made for you when things go south and next thing you know you’re in a brutal code.

When you guys are able to, celebrate his life. I’m sure he wants you all to be happy :thumbsup:
 

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From the healthcare side tell your MIL we appreciate it when families communicate with each other and make the decision/take control of the direction of care. It’s a lot less traumatic than having the decision made for you when things go south and next thing you know you’re in a brutal code.

When you guys are able to, celebrate his life. I’m sure he wants you all to be happy :thumbsup:
He actually coded 3 weeks ago and they had to perform CPR to bring him back, so the opportunity to call it was presented and on the table since then but she wasn’t ready to let go. It took him staying in a state of decline since that day for him to convince her to give them green light. Heart wrenching stuff but it is what it is at this point. We’re just glad he’s at peace.

Thanks for doing what you do, by the way.
 

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He actually coded 3 weeks ago and they had to perform CPR to bring him back, so the opportunity to call it was presented and on the table since then but she wasn’t ready to let go. It took him staying in a state of decline since that day for him to convince her to give them green light. Heart wrenching stuff but it is what it is at this point. We’re just glad he’s at peace.

Thanks for doing what you do, by the way.
You’re welcome.

the local guys here have heard a couple of my horror stories but there’s no way to convey what going through a code is really like for the family watching and the people working on the patient.
 
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For sure. Once he and my MIL made the decision to switch to comfort care and start the process of “pulling the plug”, they gave him morphine and he was at least comfortable throughout the rest of that process. Covid is a dirty bitch when it comes to visitation. Thankfully, he didn’t have it so we were able to visit one at a time. The family had a couple months of him in the hospital and nobody able to see him (even his wife) due to Covid restrictions. It just made a bad situation that much worse.
So sorry to hear this brotha!!! I know all too well with the "comfort care" thing.

Bringing back some hard memories for sure. It's the "no longer suffering" thing that is good to think about, but to "miss" that person is a whole other level of sadness, if you get my meaning?

But yeah, sooooo sorry to hear this!!! :sad:
 
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